If you can forgive me for honing in on one of your less important remarks for a moment, on a side-note, I know it's different for women because having babies changes your bodies in ways one doesn't comprehend until you (or your partner in my case) have been through it, but "Perfect bodies" can be just as amazing at 40 as they are at 21, it just takes time (but also as a Dad of four I know how precious time can be).

Before I met my wife (whom I met when I was right around 40), I knew women in their 40s whose bodies quite literally put 22 year olds to shame. A good friend of mine at the time was a divorced mother of two (kids were adult or nearly adult), and she had the most amazing, lithe, svelte physique I'd seen since I was in my 20s and dated a professional ballerina. Her secret was she was a semi-professional tennis player and played literally every day.

I say all that to say, once the dust settles from the inevitable fustercluck that will be the breakup and settlement, etc, the best way to ever get back at anyone is:

1. Be the best version of you that you want to be.

2. Despite what you may have been through, gravitate towards being the light, joyful spirit you were before you met the person who brought darkness or pain into your life. Dark spirits hate when you demonstrate happiness without them; despite them.

3. As much as possible and as much as motherhood allows, focus on you when you get the chance. Do the things you've wanted to do for years, see the art movies you've wanted to see, take that dance or yoga class, get back to your zen. Make sure he honors whatever custody agreement that gets agreed to, which means you get occasional weekends and time away so you can have that time. Connect back with your spiritual self, not for appearances, but for you.

4. Good luck in all this. As entertaining as this is for your readers, break-ups are never easy, even when they're necessary.

Best of luck, and as Charlotte from Charlotte's Web said, "Salutations!"